what is NLP?
a powerful tool for changing your approach to dating and relationships
‘Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) is an approach to communication and personal development created by Richard Bandler & John Grinder in the 1970s’ (Source: Wikipedia). It relies on three main components:
Neuro – the mind
Linguistic – words & body language
Programming – patterns of behaviours learnt and repeated
Basically, it’s a method to understand yourself, why you act and react as you do or what makes you tick. The set of techniques I use is designed to help you change and influence your own behaviour, utilising language and other types of communication in order for you to create new and more helpful ways of being.
It's particularly relevant to dating and relationships because the emotions can easily take over.
It means you can change the responses that don’t serve you both unconsciously and consciously. The unconscious part is about ‘rewiring your brain’ and the conscious part is done through various communication techniques I will teach you, but also ways of challenging your own beliefs. You can then start getting the results or reactions what you want far more easily.
This approach really highlights how our life experiences affects our reactions, and therefore assumptions , which in turn affect our behaviours, actions and results in dating, relationships and life in general. It addresses the consequences of what we have brought to ourselves by ourselves.
Sometimes, just a few tweaks can make a world of difference.
If it’s important to you to change the dynamics of dating and relationships in general, then you will be amazed at how it can change your life. We are all conditioned through our own experiences and journey, we develop self-limiting beliefs that we are often unaware of and they can in term trigger certain patterns or behaviours that are designed to protect us but instead, make us self-sabotage our own success and stop us achieving or getting what we really want.
NLP will also teach you how to communicate better, not just with other people, but within yourself. Our internal self-dialogue is often quite nasty and that can have devastating effects, causing long-lasting damage.
Integrating NLP techniques into your dating and relationship journey will allow you to transform not just how you interact with others but also how you see yourself.
what NLP will do for you
Breaking Negative Patterns
- Overcoming Limiting Beliefs – Helping you identify and reframe limiting beliefs about love and relationships (‘I’m not good enough’ or ‘All the good ones are taken’ for example). When you change your internal narrative, your dating approach changes.
- Interrupting Negative Thought Cycles – If you often get stuck in cycles of self-doubt or fear of rejection, NLP can help you break these loops.
Improving Self-Awareness and Emotional Intelligence
- Understanding Triggers – Emotional triggers cause strong reactions. With this self-awareness, you will be able to prevent misunderstandings and conflicts in relationships.
- Anchoring Positive States – Techniques to recall positive, confident states when you need them the most, such as a first date with someone you really like or a difficult conversation.
Enhancing Communication
- Building Rapport – Techniques around body language, tone and language help others feel more comfortable around you, which leads to deeper connections.
- Mastering in Language – Understanding the nuances of language and how words impact emotions so you can communicate effectively, express your needs more clearly and avoid misunderstandings with your partner.
Developing Confidence and Self-Esteem
- Overcoming Fear of Rejection –: Reframing past experiences and removing the negative feelings associated with them means better resilience.
- Visualisation Techniques – Tools to boost your confidence and reduce anxiety in real-life situations.
Shifting Your Mindset for Success
- Changing Self-Sabotaging Behaviours – Uncover the subconscious drivers behind your actions and reprogramme them so you can have a different outcome.
- Changing Your Focus – Some simples shifts will help to attract more positive outcomes.
Creating and Maintaining Attraction
- Understanding Different Communication Styles – Understanding your partner’s communication style and tailoring your interactions accordingly.
- Eliciting Values – Creating a better alignment with your partner will create a stronger emotional connection.
Managing Conflict and Resolving Issues
- Managing Arguments – Turning conflict into constructive dialogue so that both parties feel heard and understood.
- Better Questions, Better Answers – Improving language and communication to understand underlying concerns, leading to faster conflict resolution.
Boosting Emotional Resilience
- Understanding the Past – Approaching negative associations with certain places, people, experiences or conversations to create closure and a fresh perspective.
- Building Emotional Flexibility – Learning to shift between different emotional states to adapt more easily to the ups and downs of relationships.
Let’s Get Started
Let’s not waste any more time, now is your time to get the journey started. Book a chat with me, we can see if we are a good fit and if we are, talk about how we’re going to get you that relationship you’ve always wanted.
