If you are that person, fed up with dating and wondering why you can’t get a relationship, you’re in the right place. I’m Sophie Personne and I’m here to help you break free of old patterns and find true love.
For the last 10 years, I’ve been a Relationship & Dating Expert and helped hundreds of people find their forever after. I’m also the author of the best-selling book ‘Your Other Half’. I primarily work with 45+ professionals who’ve had enough of dating and wasting their time in unfulfilling relationships.
Singles feeling lost, tired of the emotional rollercoaster of dating and not knowing how to meet the right person… who I then watched walking down the aisle with their perfect match.
There were also couples who weren’t sure why they were still together and almost gave up. But I’m glad to say that after working with me, they not only found a new sense of joy and commitment, but had a stronger relationship and deeper bond.
Real change doesn’t come from just swiping left or rights, rehearsing pickup lines or ‘working at your marriage’ by just staying as you are – and not actually addressing the deep-rooted issues. The answer lays in getting to the heart of what’s really going on.
Dating when you were in your twenties was a completely different ball game to what dating is nowadays. And until you know why you keep falling for the wrong person or understand what makes a relationship work, it won’t happen for you.
If you’re ready to stop going round in circles and start actually getting somewhere, you’re in good hands. Navigating dating and relationships doesn’t have to be hard work. I’m here to help you work out what’s been holding you back, give you the practical know-how and get you on track to the relationship you’ve been waiting for, with a real and meaningful connection.
I was born and bred in France. When I was 21, I packed my bags and moved to the UK. I have a couple of university degrees but my early career was spent in the security industry, until the corporate environment became a tad too rigid for my liking – I was always labelled as a troublemaker (lol)…
In 2012, redundancy was on offer and I was in a seriously toxic relationship. Long story short – he faked his own suicide (in my house) because he knew I’d seen through the bullsh*t and the writing was on the wall. It didn’t end there as a few months later, I ended up having to get an injunction against him.
Meanwhile, I decided to step into the world of entrepreneurship and I set up a company organising quirky dating events for single 40+ professionals on the South Coast.
It seemed like a good idea at the time but the more I interacted with the attendees, the more I saw a deeper need. All of these people did not enjoy dating, were looking for love, for their special someone, for that relationship that would last forever but it was obvious they wouldn’t recognise it even if it slapped them in the face.
I could actually see why these people were single and it felt more aligned to retrain (in Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)) and help them work this out for themselves because I knew that until it was addressed, they wouldn’t get anywhere anyway.
So here I am…
I feel spending my ‘formative years’ amongst a lot of men twice my age really helped to make me who I am. The security industry is quite a testosterone-driven environment and it certainly gave me some rather deep understanding of the male psyche as well as how they approached relationships.
However, discovering NLP (Neuro-Linguistic Programming), and especially using it on myself after suffering a nervous breakdown in 2015 was quite pivotal. I didn’t want anti-depressants, I wanted to get to the bottom of what caused it.
I personally believe that the answers to the present (and the future) are in the past. Unless you go there and face up to it, you’ll stay trapped and stuck in a world of unrealistic expectations.
I feel that’s where you’ll find I’m different. We won’t work on relationship ‘non-negotiables’ or your dating checklist, we’ll deal with the real sh*t that’s holding you back. If you really want to connect with others, you have to connect with yourself first.
And that’s where I come in.
You’re 45 or over, you have a successful professional career and most aspects of your life are pretty much sorted. So why do you struggle so much when it comes to relationships?
I was talking to someone in her twenties recently. There was something so ‘innocent’ about her and the way she sees her life unfolding… It made me think of me at her age. I didn’t want to burst her bubble, my role wasn’t to warn her about what was likely to unfold over the next 20 years. After all, she might just be the exception to the rule, why should I dash her dreams?
I’m yet to meet a single person that has gone past the age of 45 and not encountered issues. Or roadblocks. Or pain of any description. I call it life sh*t – the stuff you didn’t consider when you were her age.
The problem is that it holds us back, not even necessarily in a conscious way! Our brain wants to wrap us in cotton wool and protect us. And it’s unconsciously working against us… just because it doesn’t want us to get hurt.
It doesn’t mean that you’re doomed though, it just means that you have a choice to make. You either stay as you are or you do something about it.
There is a point when we have to accept that it’s not someone else’s fault, we’re the common denominator here… Equally, it’s not to say it’s your fault either. It only becomes your fault if you do nothing.
The truth is that there is a point when we need to break the cycle and it’s much easier to do with somebody else than on your own. When I learnt how to drive, it was still a time when you’d have to work out the itinery with a good old-fashioned map. Today we have sat navs. Would you drive in London/ Paris/ Dubai/ fill in the blank without one? I know that I certainly wouldn’t out of choice. It’d take forever!
So why would you not do the same in your personal life? Do you have the time to waste?
Direct and focused support tailored to your needs. Designed to empower you overcome relationship barriers and build authentic connections.
Understand the cycles that keep repeating in your relationships. Discover and release your unconscious triggers and self-sabotaging patterns.
Get clear on what you truly need in a relationship. Learn how to trust your instinct 100% of the time and how to have the confidence to make the right dating decisions.
Master the art of meaningful dialogue. Improve your ability to connect and express your emotions. Learn how to address conflicts to build deeper trust and a stronger relationship.
Depending on where you’re at in your journey, I offer three different programmes designed to help you break free from the past and find true love. Each programme has a structure but will be tailored to you and your needs.
This is the perfect starting point for you if you are either already dating and not getting anywhere or if you have only recently made the decision to move on but dating/ dating apps feels scary and you’re not sure where to start. Over three months, we will focus on clearing out any negative patterns, building your confidence and discovering what you truly need.
Through a combination of deep self-reflection, practical exercises and personalised guidance, you’ll begin to break free from limiting beliefs, self-sabotage and learn how to navigate love with a different perspective. The Relationship Reset programme is for those who are looking for an impactful yet gentle start to creating lasting change in their romantic life.
This programme includes all of the above but we will also then build on the foundations. Over six months, we’ll work to elevate your self-awareness, enhance your communication skills and strengthen your emotional resilience.
This programme is perfect if you’re looking to get past the blockages that have probably held you back for a long while and create a lasting, meaningful connection. You’ll learn how to navigate the complexities of modern dating with confidence, clarity and authenticity.
This programme is for those truly committed to find true love and is the most comprehensive in-depth solution, designed to guide you through every step of the dating process over the course of 12 months.
Whether you’re healing from a past relationship, working on deeper self-discovery or preparing to open your heart again, it will give you the tools, strategies, healing and support you need to make long-lasting changes as well as empowering you to create the relationship you’ve always wanted.
No matter which programme you choose, my approach is will be bespoke and specific to your unique needs. I don’t do group programmes because I’ve never met 2 people with the same issues and stories. I believe that the only way to truly break free from past patterns, increase your self-awareness and ultimately attract the love you deserve, is to work one to one.
Let’s not waste any more time, now is your time to get the journey started. Book a chat with me, we can see if we are a good fit and if we are, talk about how we’re going to get you that relationship you’ve always wanted.
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