The Gap Between What We Expect and What Relationships Actually Are
The way people think relationships work Most of us have assumptions about relationships but we rarely examine them directly. These assumptions are unconscious and develop gradually from childhood and into our more mature years. From an early age, we’re exposed to stories and cultural narratives. Our upbringing obviously plays a part, but so do our […]
Constructive Communication in Relationships – Why It Works When Nothing Else Does
There’s a lot of advice about communication – on the internet, in books, TV shows or social media. However, it’s often quite generic and basic (such as ‘talking things through’) and the reality is far more complex. Conversations between two people often fail because communication itself follows patterns most people have never been taught to […]
Deepening Emotional Connection
Many people believe that emotional connection in relationships is something you either have or you don’t but in reality, that assumption is wrong. Emotional connection doesn’t develop automatically, even when attraction is strong Emotional connection is often spoken about as if it’s something that either exists or doesn’t. People frequently describe it as something determined […]
Understanding Your Triggers in Relationships (And Why They Keep You Stuck)
Nothing changes in your relationships until you understand your triggers There are times in relationships when, for whatever reason, something feels off. It can be at the beginning of seeing someone and getting to know them, or much further down the line. The upshot is that it can triggers a negative spiral into overthinking, anxiety, […]