As human beings, we don’t like change, purely because of the way we are wired and despite of how we have evolved, safety and security are still our prime concerns. They are as valid today, wherever you are in the world, as they were back to the days of living in caves and hunting buffalos.
This is why we like what’s familiar and a certain level of routine. It makes us feel at ease and in control. Change does the opposite. It scares us because we get the impression of not being in charge and powerless over the situation. The truth is that it is just a perception. Our level of control is exactly the same, whether we are going about our day as usual or doing something new. Regardless of what we do, our world can come crashing in and change everything in a split second. The fact is that we like to think that we are in control, but we’re not. Our mind tells us that we are though… This is why stepping out of your comfort zone can feel so challenging.
However difficult it may seem, pushing personal boundaries and taking risks can be extremely rewarding, but it does create anxiety in anticipation of all that could go wrong. Our default position is to look to the negatives before looking at what could go right.
Stepping out of our comfort zone should be about happiness and personal growth. It often revolves around making a decision about something that no longer satisfies us in life, and the outcome of this choice is uncertain and in the realm of the unknown. Have you ever heard the saying ‘same shit, different day’? Well, that’s pretty much what it’s about. Creating a different day, a different result, a different outcome and a new experience.
Everything on this earth either expands or contracts, grows or dies, be it metal or a flower… And this is true of you too. Think of stagnant water for instance. Its state changes and as it gets neglected, it will go stale and mouldy. And so will you if you stay in something that doesn’t make you happy.
Resisting change comes from a place of discomfort, which normally is either a fear, a perception, a habit or a self-limiting belief. Stepping out of your comfort zone doesn’t mean you should do things just for the sake of changing. It’s about recognising an unsatisfying situation and doing something about it. It’s about taking responsibility for your own happiness instead of dying inside, it’s about broadening your perspectives and your horizons, it’s about embracing the journey and trusting that you will make the right decision.
So what’s holding you back and what first step towards change could you take today?
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