They say that the gut is the second brain and this is very true indeed. We all have a gut instinct, and we should always listen to it but we often don’t. We listen to the voices in our head more, telling us how fat we are, that we aren’t good enough, that we should do this, that or the other… or we listen to our paranoid and absurd inner talk about all the things that could possibly go wrong in our lives, but very few of us actually properly pay attention to their gut instinct.
In my particular case, I have certainly learnt in the last few years, that decisions made with the heart are always right and the ones made with the head aren’t.
Our head will always look to what is rational and what we ‘should’ do. We base our decisions on the basis of what other people think, what is seen to be right or wrong in society, and what we ought to want. Unfortunately, what is perceived to be right for us isn’t and couldn’t be further from the truth. Going with what you feel, and being aligned with your true self, is the right and only way to go. We always know if we should or shouldn’t do something, especially when we go against it.
We all know deep down, if what we are doing is what we need to do and right for us. If we feel angst, stress, anxiety or any of these bad feelings, then it’s probably the wrong decision. I recall a time when I took a particular job because on paper, it would be silly not to and (little voices starting in my head) I really ought to, and it was more money, and more responsibilities, blah blah blah, … It wasn’t actually what I wanted to do but I went ahead anyway. The last time I didn’t listen to my gut instinct was 5 years ago, and the consequences were such that this time, I’ve learnt my lesson. It was to do with a relationship, which I knew I needed to walk away from. But I didn’t. I had more than enough opportunities to do it but still, I didn’t. The worst thing is that I knew from the very start it was a bad idea. The outcome was a lot of stress and aggravation, losing a lot of money as well as having to get an injunction against the individual. Now, I only make decisions based on how I feel, and I can positively say that it is serving me just right. Don’t get me wrong, there have been times where I have actually questioned my own sanity because I’ve really been going against all the rational good reasons my head has given me. It didn’t always work out as I thought, but it worked out because it was the right thing to do. At the end of the day, if something makes you feel dread, anxiety or sadness, it’s not the right thing to do. If it makes you feel hopeful, joyous, excited and full of anticipation, then go for it.
Sometimes though, and especially at the beginning of trying to listen to your gut, it’s not always easy to know which way to go or even what it is telling you. After all, what’s the difference between being suspicious and having the answer? It’s quite straightforward. Mistrust is when the little voices are talking to you, and having the answer is the way you feel. The easiest thing to do if you’re still unsure is a very simple game of ‘heads or tails’. Ask the question, determine your yes and your no, flip the coin and whatever side it lands on, you will know from your reaction. You will either feel ‘Happy Days’ or a bit of a sinking feeling in your stomach. You will then know what you should be doing…