Do you sometimes find yourself wondering why you are going for yet another coffee with someone you really aren’t so sure you want to meet? But because ‘you just never know’, you go anyway? And then feel like that was an hour of your life you will never get back… A friend of mine decided that the option of burning his own mouth with a boiling drink was actually much better than staying! That’s a bit extreme but you get the gist. In a nutshell, we all get disappointed at some point because they were totally different from what we thought – this can either be our own fault as we just imagined them to be a certain way or theirs because they created a persona they are simply not.
I can remember going on a first date a few years back, feeling all excited, butterflies fluttering inside… I couldn’t wait to find out more about the guy! However, over the years, I have somehow found myself becoming rather despondent and treating ‘going for a coffee’ as a chore as opposed to a happy occasion I should look forward to.
But I suppose these days were before online dating and finding out people were not quite how I thought, this is why I would much rather meeting people in the flesh straight away. I suppose the novelty of dating also wears off and going on yet another coffee doesn’t feel as meaningful and exciting as it first did.
It is however also true that you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince or princess. I have found that if there is something special about someone, the excitement soon comes back and I actually want to see them again.
Or maybe, just maybe, it is actually all about trusting your gut instinct… if it doesn’t feel right and like you are wasting your time, you probably are.
Are you attracting all the wrong types or no one at all? Are you struggling to meet ‘the one’? The dating roller coaster of emotions can be quite draining… And if you’re serious about meeting somebody, quite disheartening too.
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