Single at Xmas?

single at Xmas?‘Tis the time to be jolly… Yet for some single people, the festive season is absolutely dreaded. They find it to be a very difficult time indeed as they witness happy couples around them enjoying themselves and acting as a constant reminder that they are on their own and cannot share this special time of year. And who do you kiss under the mistletoe at midnight on New Year’s Eve?

I actually spent my worst Christmas in a supposed loving relationship a few years ago. I absolutely wished I was single! Pretending that all was well in order to keep some peace and also to trying to  not have too miserable a time made me feel even worse inside.

The truth is, being single over the holidays doesn’t have to be all doom and gloom. It’s all about mindset.

There are actually many advantages to being on your own over the festive season, the first one being that you are free to do pretty much what you please. You don’t have to force yourself to enjoy the company of your dear in-laws or to be on your best behaviour. After all, isn’t one family stressful enough to cope with? Many of the ‘happy couples’ that you see will actually envy you!

Remember that it is all about the way you view things and so, if you find yourself falling down the negative thought spiral, bring yourself back up and turn it around. Wallowing will only make you unhappy and there isn’t much point to that unless you actually want to have a miserable time. So fill your diary, treat yourself with the money you would have used on gifts for a significant other and feel good about yourself.

Use the Christmas season to reflect on your last year and all that you have achieved. Get ready for the new year and plan all the things that you want to do. Put yourself and your feelings first, not someone else’s for a change.


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3 Responses

  1. Wow Sophie

    How very positively thought inspiring! Being on my own, I was feeling very negative, but you’ve actually made me now feel pleased (even grateful) about being single at Christmas!!

    Thank you for your very sensible words.

    Denise x

    (PS Merry Christmas to YOU!!!).

    1. Hi Denise,

      I hope you had a good Xmas?

      I have taken the liberty to add you to my newsletter as I feel you will get the benefit from some of the articles. Please feel free to unsubscribe if you don’t want to read it.

      Happy New Year!


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